GROW UP!
A Weekend Course in Pleasure, Connection & Safer Attachment
It Starts with You! - Master Rejection & Healthy Intimacy
- For your Personal and Professional Life
April 4-6, Stockholm
This is for you who is ready to Grow Up Emotionally and feel like the mature adult being you are! For you who are willing to step out of old patterns and learn healthier ways of showing up and standing in love.
Practicing safer attachment does not only affect our romantic relationships but all our connections. This weekend is for all who struggle with healthy relationships, but I especially invite people in a helping profession; coaches, facilitators, therapists, and others; to do the work with themselves to be able to better help others.
Last year, retreats with me were only available through the Inner Leadership Training, but since the next training won’t begin until October, I’ve decided to offer a more accessible and affordable retreat for the community. This is your chance to experience the work hands-on and build real-world connections.
Most of us connect unconsciously with people from a place of unmet childhood needs. We are adults, but we so often react or behave like children, especially in intimate relationships. We feel needy, alone, stuck, overwhelmed, or rejected and tend to deal with it in ways that were appropriate when we were small but do not really make us the person we want to be today.
When we over-couple our sexual and romantic needs with longings to be seen and loved we cross our own boundaries and this affects our intimate lives. An adult doesn’t need to suffer from rejection but can access many ways to feel fulfilled.
As we “grow up” from these patterns instead we can experience that we have more space, can see the bigger picture, and react from a mature place that we feel proud of. We can then engage in intimacy from safe connection, wholeness, and mutual respect.
As a person in a helping profession, these dynamics do not only show up with partners but also with our patients and clients. It was an immense door of understanding that I need to master my own relationships first to be fully available to support others. - I start off by saying “It starts with you”
Structure:
This is a city retreat in Sickla, Stockholm.
Friday, April 4: Lustful Celebration - Grow Up - It Starts With You From 18.15-21
The weekend will start with an open event where we celebrate humanness through dance, connection, and process work. Live music by Celso Paco. Anyone can sign up for this evening.
Saturday, April 5 from 10-18h & Sunday, April 6 from 10-17.
For those joining the full retreat, we continue with the deeper journey. It is open for all levels but be prepared to be vulnerable and go deep.
If you sign up for the full retreat, Friday is included. Read more and sign up for the Friday-only event here.
WHAT PEOPLE THINK
"Body, mind and spirit they say. Now I get it. NOW I CAN UNDERSTAND MY BODY. Now the mind and spirit tag along. Simple, not painless.”
-DAVID
A Unique Blend of Movement, Joy and Deep Process Work
Li’s spaces offer a unique playground where we see belonging and safety as the starting point for inner growth. With music, drums, movement, and playfulness we create a space where we can return to safety and innocence. We listen to our body as our wisest teacher. “The body keeps the score” as Bessel van der Kolk says, meaning our body remembers what our mind doesn’t.
From this place, we open up to deep in somatic process work where we learn to identify the roots of our triggers, understand rejection and projection and how to move through emotions otherwise difficult to access.
The Toolbox
Li has gathered a unique blend of tools in her 15 years of working with embodiment. As a baseline, she uses Somatic Experiecing, NARM and Family Constellation to build a fundamental understanding of emotional and systemic work. This is combined with Li’s Movement Practice Life is Rhythm which invites dance as a a spiritual path with roots in Animism, Tantric practices and African Spirituality.
What We will Practice:
To listen to your body, love it, and embody it as your temple
Joy as a resource to hold pain and opening up to trust
Learn somatics tools and nervous system regulation according to the Somatic Experiencing and Poly-Vagal Theory
Recognize your attachment patterns, how they feel in the body, and how to deal with them
Moving out of freeze and stuckness into authenticity
Feel more emotionally grown and prepared to explore intimate relationships from that place
Use your relationships for mutual growth and have your needs met in a non-codependent way.
FACILITATION TEAM
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LI TADAA
Li Tadaa is a lust coach, a somatic experiencing practitioner, and the founder of Grow Up.
Li has 15 years of experience with movement and embodiment.
Their knowledge of dance and routes to pleasure from traditions around the globe is combined with the understanding of the nervous system, dance therapy, somatic trauma healing, shamanism, and non-duality. -
Celso Paco
Celso is a talented musician from Mozambique, holding a Master’s degree in music and specializing in percussion pedagogy. He is a multi-instrumentalist, composer, and experienced workshop leader in music and dance. Passionate about drums, theater, and storytelling,
Celso brings a rich cultural heritage to his performances and workshops.
ASSISTANT TEAM
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Max Mo Katz
RETREAT COORDINATOR
Max is a mover. A movement of dance, theater, yoga, and martial arts, all held in the bosom of the breath. And a dash of unbridled playfulness!He is here to hold space, and to let go. To challenge and to inspire. To be authentic.
For the last 4 years he's been embracing the work of growing up, dvelving into the challenges and growth that comes with a life in intimacy. Learning from and supporting different teachers in Sweden - this time as coordinator.
His current focus is the bridging of indigenous cultures with the "western" world, sharing and listening, with Plants and Animals as the foremost Teachers.
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Luna Lala
ASSISTANT TEAM - EMO SUPPORT
Dharani comes from the land of TamilNadu. Brother of the whales, grandson to their ancestors. Young wizard on the path of learning from elders.. They are interested in the expression through the body through movement, voice, and words. They share these practices with people through bodywork, performance arts, and ceremonies.Spells they gathered along the way Mechanical Engineering, Zen Coaching, Tantra Massage training, Massage education, Andean Shamanism, Yage and Huachuma ceremonies, Embodied Intimacy Training, Family Constellation, and Apprenticeship with Grief.
All Practical Info
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Friday, April 4, 18h-21h: Lustful Celebration - Included in the retreat
April 5, 10h-18h and April 6, 10h-17h - In-Person Retreat
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The weekend is held at Kulturhuset Dieselverkstaden, Järnvägsgatan 23, Nacka
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One evening and 2 days of guided workshops
Communication & emo support
Live Drums
Fika
Study Material
There is no accommodation and food included in the course.
You can bring your own lunch or there are several places around the venue where you can go and buy food. -
Accommodation
Food
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Friday 18.30-21.30
Saturday: 10-18
Sunday: 10-17.
In my retreats, I don’t usually follow a clear-cut timeline, I feel the group and listening to our needs.The Lustful Celebration will be a powerful opening of the weekend. Then we who continue the journey will meet Saturday at 10 in the morning and start with a ceremony to open the space and meet each other.
We will take a lunch break, and continue in the afternoon with a longer workshop that ends at 18. There will be a short fika pause.
On Sunday we follow the same structure but instead, we end the day with a closing ceremony and sharing and finish by 17. -
Full weekend pass: 3900 sek
GUMP members: 2500 sek valid until March 9.
To sign up for Friday, Lustful Celebration only, click here.
* Do you live on a low income? There are a few discounted scholarship and assistant opportunities. Contact Li to learn more! -
You can receive a full refund (-200 sek admin fees) if you cancel at least 14 days before the retreat. After that, refunds are not available.
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I have already done lots of inner work is this for me?
Yes! There will be mixed levels at the retreat and we work in a way that you can work from where you are. Many people who come already have experience with somatic work, this is an opportunity to use your tools to reach your next level.
I’m totally new to this, is this for me?As stated above this retreat will serve people at all levels and you can also be new to this work. However, if you suffer from heavy anxiety, or easily go into freeze that you cannot handle, this retreat might be too overwhelming. Contact Li if you are unsure if this is for you.
It says “Tantric Practices” in the description, how do you work with that?
I use tantra as a tool for presence and understanding how our sexual energy and our life force are the same. We practice feeling good together but this retreat is clothes on and does not include any sexual interactions.Do you have other questions?
